Enjoy this excerpt from Mary’s teaching in her 2019 Self Mastery Program, as she helps her students ready themselves to tackle their first forgiveness session in the near future.
Mary will put you at ease too, if you are in the process of getting your head around the mythically difficult task of forgiving someone.
Mary tackles our common resistance with her ease and warm authority that is based on SO much experience of practicing forgiveness and coaching people for 30 years to a breakthrough that brings new freedom.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS, IDEAS, & WISDOM
Forgiveness is for us.
It’s commonly thought that forgiveness is “ha-a-a-a-a-a-r d….” and that it takes a long time to do it. Mary says that a life skill is hard, only if you don’t know what to do – you have to be taught.
The average amount of time it takes to get over something that really bothers us is 45 minutes! If we know what to do, and do it.
Forgiveness “launders” the pain out of a story, drains out the stress, and leaves us with a nugget of wisdom and new strength.
We hold onto our pain and build a wall, because we are afraid of being hurt in a similar way again, in the future. “People cling to a wall, but what they really need is a boundary. Strangely- counterintuitively – our natural energetic boundary slides into place and we are stronger than ever, when we forgive.”
There are such great benefits from expressing your anger freely and comfortably to an empty chair. You get to be fiery, irrational, and unfair as you get your angry feelings out without any harm to anyone.
The Eight Steps of Forgiving Another mimic the organic way that the psyche heals itself, over time.
Be an explorer on a psychological adventure – boldly going into new territory. You are courting new ease and freedom and joy in your life!