Whether we know it or not, we all have a backlog of bothersome emotional things that haven’t ever been completely settled. Static, energy, and feelings from old painful experiences. Mary and Erin explore how to know what’s in your “pot of pain”, how it affects you and those around you, and what you can do to empty it.
Episode Highlights, Ideas and Wisdom:
- Our emotions can be baby-ish, hot, selfish, and violent. They’re not always rational or fair. They don’t respond well to logic.
- Some of what’s in your “pot of pain” is fresh and an understandable response or reaction to something in the present. Some has deep, long, terrible roots into your childhood and into your unconscious psyche.
- What’s in your “pot of pain” can taint and color much of what goes on in your life. It’ll cause you to put some interpretation on what you’re experiencing that has nothing to do with what’s really going on. It’s actually coming from your “pot of pain.” You don’t realize that you’re not seeing straight.
- Emotion is such a huge feature of being human. We just need to learn how to be with our emotions.
- Our emotions are hardwired in us from birth. Different personalities have different emotional natures. Some people are vivid, passionate, intense, and fiery. Others are cool, gentle, more cerebral, and don’t get roused easily. Knowing our emotions are going to be there with us, we need to learn how to let them be the color, texture, drama, and interest in life without causing damage.
- When you’re angry at something, it reflects what you think is fair, what you think is good and right and ethical. When you’re joyous, it reflects what kindles your heart and spirit and brings light to your eyes. It’s different things for different people.
- It doesn’t hurt anyone to do a stint of therapy at some point just to get to know yourself better.
- People need each other. We tend to be wounded by people and we heal with people. We don’t heal in a vacuum.
- We get things from growing through our painful experiences. We get mental clarity. We are able to see straight, focus, and establish some goals. We get good social behavior. We become likable, very likable and safe for others to be around.