Mary and Erin reveal the surprising way to permanently heal the pain from lingering anger, resentment, and grief in our lives. You’ll hear inspiring real-life stories of how this method has transformed the lives of thousands of people around the world who are no longer suffering. It will give you hope no matter how difficult the experience you are trying to leave behind.
Episode Highlights, Ideas and Wisdom
- It’s going to cost us or people around us if we don’t know how to handle our anger in a healthy way.
- We have so much evidence of toxic expressions of anger all around us these days. Really bitter and nasty stuff.
- It’s important for us to know who we are in this world and what we will and will not have in our space. What causes us to have healthy anger or unhealthy anger and how to deal with it.
- Anger is a doorway we walk through to reclaim our power and to set situations straight. To heal from the inside out. It’s not a place to stay and live in, over and over, week after week, year after year. We can’t be revving this anger inside of us because it’s hard on us. It wears out our parts.
- Forgiveness is the refreshing experience of releasing an expectation that’s been causing you to suffer. It’s the moment in which you feel a weight drop away that you’ve been carrying around in your heart and in your head.
- Forgiveness is really about letting go of expectations. It’s not about accepting things that are wrong or excusing things that are wrong.
- Our expectations come from what we consider normal, healthy, grown-up, decent behavior. What we believe to be right and civil. They come from the expectation that all children have, that they are going to be loved and protected.
- When people are violated, they somehow blame themselves. We don’t know why, but we all do it. We think maybe I did something wrong. Maybe these bad things are happening to me because I’m not such a great person. It’s irrational, but we do it anyway.
- Anger is a function of the psyche that is adrenaline-based. It has to come out. It is trying to get us to set something right. Put a boundary back, say no or say stop to something that’s wrong. If we don’t let anger out, it just keeps revving. Keeping us awake at night. Making our stomach upset. Making us snap at friends and family when they haven’t done anything wrong.
- Forgiveness is a little journey which takes 45 minutes on average. If you’re dealing with something really huge, like a divorce, an assault, or big parental things the journey might take a little longer, but not forever. A couple months or a handful of sessions and you’re done for good.
- There is increasing evidence that there is a correlation between stubbornly held resentments and cancer.
- You’ll know something is a forgiveness issue if you can’t stop thinking about it. You dislike somebody or something intensely and you cannot quite get off of it.
- Healing anger, resentment, and grief lowers stress, clears the mind, and improves relationships. It brings more joy and allows you to see what’s good in life.